Have you ever stopped to consider the difference between a reason and an excuse? Is there one?

According to Merriam-Webster, they’re almost identical. A reason is defined as a cause or justification, while an excuse is described as a justification or a reason. They seem to be synonyms, but we don’t actually treat them that way.

Our emotions and perceptions shape how we receive explanations. When we believe someone has done something wrong, frustration or even anger may flare up. In that state, nothing they say to justify their actions seems good enough. We label their explanations as “excuses,” which carry a negative connotation—a hollow defense, perhaps even lacking in honesty. We see their words as empty, possibly outright lies.

Human beings are naturally guided by emotion, and unfortunately, our default is not to extend the benefit of the doubt, assume the best, or show mercy. Those responses must be chosen. Yet when we choose a calm mind and a compassionate heart, we open ourselves to understanding. We gain a better ability to discern truth from falsehood and to show empathy toward others.

Today’s Peace of Wisdom lies in choosing an open mind and a calm demeanor when hearing others’ explanations.